Lilith or Black moon is a point in the horoscope that is linked to the inner rebel, raw femininity.
But it also stands for an unknown wound within, issues, pain and the possibility to grow.
Lilith represents the darkest part of yourself, the part that awakens in times of crisis, anxiety, anger,..
She is the part of yourself which you don’t fully know and hardly recognize when it comes to the surface.
This point triggers certain situations in your life which you’d rather not face, but it forces you to see the darkness within you aswell as your vulnerability, to learn from it.
It explains the parts that you keep secret from the outside world, the things you’re capable of when you’re mistreated.
• In a female horoscope :
Your feminine power and sexuality, raw expression. The way you protect yourself. The area where you’re challenged by men (mostly) and where you may feel suppressed. How possible sexual scandals affect you, shows the strength of your courage. Your dark side and courage. The ability for (sexual) awakenings and tantra.
•In a male horoscope :
The type of woman you’re attracted to but often simultaneously afraid of. The way you prefer to have power/control over a woman. shows a wound, how woman take revenge on you. The type of challenges you face with women. It shows the type of woman you would cheat on your partner with. It indicates what you consider feminine and is a gateway to vulnerability, emotional maturity, (sexual) awakenings and tantra.
In order to decode the darkest part of an individual you have to take a look at what planet aspects lilith, especially hard aspects, the sign and house it’s placed in.
Lilith in the signs :
• Aries : Sex-pioneer, oozing confidence, sex-obsessed, courageous
• Taurus : Self-indulgence, lust, greedy, sensual power
• Gemini : Playful, tricky, sneaky, gossip, bold, excited
• Cancer : Dominant, man-eater, emotional power
• Leo : Glamorous, narcissism, pleasure-seeking, proud
• Virgo : Contradicting sexual behavior, man-hater, purity-seeking
• Libra : Charming, luxury, seducer, beauty-seeking, cooperative power
• Scorpio : Fearless, sex appeal, sex addict, sexual healer
• Sagittarius : Sexual games, reckless, adventurous, straightforward
• Capricorn : Powerhungry, cold when not getting what she wants, guarded authority
• Aquarius : Weirdness, experimental, anarchist, reckless, groundbreaking, openminded
• Pisces : Sexual illusions, romantic, escapist, indulgence, union-seeking, compassion
Lilith in the houses :
1st : Sex appeal, rebellious personality, sexual object, fighter, independent
2nd : Money-hungry, materialism, possessive, protective, fear of rejection
3rd : Chaotic communication, gossip, incest, alert, poetry, think before speaking
4th : Childhood chaos, work as an escape from home, don’t run away from home
5th : Sexual manipulation, affairs, little interest from children, acting, try to create
6th : Irregularity, neglecting health, demand respect, chaos, self-care
7th : Attraction of dominant partners, unhealthy relationships, sexual instincts, repression
8th : Mental issues, secretive, obsessive, abuse of resources, live/feel from the soul
9th : Pushing beliefs onto others, lying, foreign affairs, knowledgeable, practice fairness
10th : Scandals, dislike for authority, morbid determination, need for work-life balance
11th : Bullying, desire for uniqueness, fuckbuddy’s, social destruction, social justice
12th : Suppressing issues, mental problems, Escapism, nightmares, introspection, soberness
Lilith in hard aspect to Natal planets :
• Sun : Overpowering ego, leader, wholeness within
• Moon : Emotional blackmail, borderline, witchy
• Mercury : Manipulating, lying
• Venus : Abuse of love, femme fatal, unconventional love
• Mars : Violence, abuse of power, sexual
• Jupiter : Obsessive religion
• Saturn : Sabotage of structure
• Uranus : Highly rebellious, freedom seeking
• Neptune : Drug abuse, manipulation, escapism
• Pluto : Abuse of power, manipulating, black magic
Lilith in Synastry :
Hard aspects to lilith in synastry often result in obsessive and destructive behavior when awareness is lacking.
The energy can be strongly felt and often instantly act as magnetic attraction between two people.
Lilith can act as healing or destruction at the same time, so it’s important to look at what kind of hard aspects she makes to the planets. Lilith is hard to satisfy.
Conjunctions are most strongly felt.
A synastry with lots of squares or hard Lilith aspects shows a need for sexual healing, but the road to get there may be very rough and filled with obstacles and painful emotions regards an unfulfilled sexlife. In most cases lilith’s acts will be unpredictable, much depends on how the individuals are connected to their own Lilith.
Lilith conjunct Sun:
The Lilith person pushes the ego of the Sun into exile. The Sun person then struggles to reclaim their solar power while they fall deeper into the dark depths of Lilith, their ego consumed by a seductive non-conformist.
It has a direct effect on people and is very intense. It completely reveals the shadow sides of personality, and has a radically transforming effect on the self. After this relationship, people evolve into a completely different form. It creates an irresistible attraction.
Lilith conjunct Moon:
The impact of Lilith on the Moon person’s inner self stirs up an emotional storm on both sides. The Moon person feels compelled, tempted and bewitched by Lilith on a very subconscious and subtle level.
Emotional depth emerges intensely. It transforms all aspects of one´s inner world and heart, which have remained in the dark, by surface. It can be extra compelling because the moon is a planet deeply connected with the soul. May cause emotional obsessions.
Lilith conjunct Ascendant:
The Ascendant person’s subconscious impulses are drawn out by Lilith in very public settings. Being around the Lilith person tears down their external mask and brings their shadow self out in the open.
The attraction between people is very strong and clear. It brings out all the dark sides of personality, the shadow sides is a relationship theme that needs to be solved. In this relationship, people are very much affected by each other´s identities and postures, experiencing transformation in this field.
Lilith conjunct Venus:
The Lilith person inspires lustful feelings in the Venus person, and brings out their darkest desires. The Venus person becomes captive in the realm of indulgence, their heart under the spell of gothic romance.
Attraction is very strong, sexuality is intense and hot, creating a dark and deep love. They may be obsessed with passion. It can trigger the instinct of jealousy and possession. The dark side of love emerges, an angle that can be dangerous.
Lilith conjunct Mars:
The Lilith person ignites strongly physical, primitive and sexual feelings in the Mars person. The Mars person becomes relentlessly aggressive in taming the Lilith person’s wildly chaotic resistance, instinctually seeking out Lilith’s physical touch.
It´s a very hot interaction. Since it is an angle that draws Mars´ energy into darkness, its negative effects can easily occur; it can lead to violence, abuse of power, and hostility. Care must be taken. Creates incredible intense sexuality and passion
Lilith conjunct Mercury:
The mind of the Mercury person becomes captivated by Lilith as a mental image. The mind then feels intellectually attracted to the primal call of Lilith, while the Lilith person probes into the most sealed depths of their mind, and connects with Mercury there.
It has compelling effects on people´s communication, minds and thoughts. There is a telepathic bond where they can feel each other´s darkest thoughts. They can be enemies to each other, if they have a common enemy they can be very destructive together
Lilith conjunct Neptune:
The Neptune person, haunted by the illusory ghost images of Lilith, intuitively reaches out to Lilith’s self-imposed isolation, and connects with Lilith there, beyond time and space, like a dream within a dream.
It reveals the darkest desires and dreams of people. There is a risk of being lost in these dark desires and dreams. The risk of addiction is very high. People can fill each other´s minds with illusions, thus creating psychological disturbances.
Lilith conjunct Pluto:
Two factors of separation become one. Lilith finds her home in the dark and passionate heart of Pluto, joining their intense forces and their suffering, transcending their isolation, transforming their pain together.
Very dangerous, extremely karmic and transformative. Sexual attraction is irresistibly strong. They can touch each other´s darkest sides, see and activate even the most hidden evil sides. Has devastating effects.
Lilith conjunct Saturn:
Patriarchy, structure and order meet non-conformism in the most dramatic manner. The Saturn person, unable to impose anything on Lilith, experiences a shock in their system as they descend into a vortex of hidden fears,
leading to a de-programming of their karmic habits.
It is one of the most dangerous and karmic interactions, it can lead to brutality. Sexuality is dark and powerful, obsessions can become serious. Karma is very heavy and carries the hardness of Saturn, extremely compelling. People may not be separated from each other.
Lilith conjunct Uranus:
The revolutionary Uranus is fueled by Lilith’s non-conformist attitude. Sparks fly as their energies meet, creating a storm in the sky. Lilith brings out Uranus’ most repressed inner rebel and liberates him.
It removes the boundaries of individuals and makes them open to any situation. It creates a very sudden and high attraction and magnet effect. They can do anything together, so danger exists unpredictably, causing impulsive and sudden situations.
Lilith conjunct Jupiter:
The Lilith person’s tendencies are magnified and expanded via the contact with Jupiter. Jupiter’s morals and ethics end up in a gray area where the higher and wiser self is blurred by dark instincts and primal impulses. Wisdom meets the inner shadows.
There is a possibility that Jupiter´s negative work can lead to waste, fanaticism, indifference, superficiality, and extreme indulgence. Yet Jupiter will soften Lilith. It may indicate a karma that arises from misuse of information.
Lilith- North Node:
In order for people to move on their spiritual paths, their shadow sides must be solved. Although this is challenging, karmic lessons are very important. People go through a very important spiritual change by discovering the deepest of their dark sides.
There is a very deep karmic bond between them. This hash must be completed. They know, feel, and trigger each other´s evil sides. It creates a dark familiarity with a very strong sexual attraction.
(Source : astro-kitty.com & astro-seek.com)
Hard Lilith contacts in Synastry
The square is the most challenging one amongst them when it comes to Lilith.
Initially it creates string sexual attraction that starts explosively but could wear off after some time has passed and could bring a sour ending between two people. Lilith square can trigger and result in repression of sexuality, anger, frustration, jealousy, revenge, range, shame, guilt. It can be difficult to conquer as Lilith is wild and hard to tame.
The square can bring unresolved wounds and trauma to the surface so if a synastry is Lilith dominant, it can become a very confronting experience.
What’s necessary to handle this aspect?
AWARENESS, VULNERABILITY, EMOTIONAL MATURITY and some sort of spiritual awakening.
This is usually the reason why two people with a heavy Lilith synastry have come together as they seem to trigger these feelings within each other that Lilith stands for. Open communication is a necessity. If one has sexual blockages, shame or is stuck in a certain perception onto sex and the female position, this could create a very toxic situation between two people.
Lilith has the potential for incredibly passionate, intense, soulish and Tantric sex, but first you need to kick out those assumptions, expectations, ill perceptions and especially patriarchy.
Be open, vulnerable, comfortable with your own emotions, your own sexual expression, be respectful and understanding towards each other. Don’t repress.
Lilith can either heal or destroy.
The aspects listed above are mostly about the conjunctions. However a little sidenote i want to make here.
In the synastry of my last relationship we have a double whammy of Mars conjunct lilith. one is happening in my 1st house, the other in my 8th house. You may think ‘WOW, that’s some hot shit going down there’ . Wrong. We have a lot of square aspects in our synastry that include Lilith, which causes an obstacle for these raw energies to flow.
The sex ain’t hot, passionate or intense. So take all Lilith contact into consideration when checking your synastry for it. Besides that, trying to predict Lilith’s outcome in a synastry is rather difficult, you will never fully know until you dive into the deep…