Sexual Style
There are several indications in the birthchart to see & understand an individual’s sexual style.
| Mars : Drive & action. Attraction = Physical act Lilith : Fantasies & dark side. Kink = The go-getter Eros : Turn-ons = Preferences |
Often we look at Mars, but you have to consider Eros to get a full picture of the native’s sexual preferences. Mars is solely the physical act. Eros will show what’s considered a trun-on and an essential element to the whole experience of lovemaking and sex. Lilith is about our raw sexual energy and how we embrace our own vulnerable self.
The influence of Pluto plays an important role within our understanding of vulnerability and sexuality.
To me, there are two ways of approach and understanding sex :
• The Mars-approach
• The Pluto-apporach
I may get shit thrown at me for having this opinion but the most brief explanation for Pluto having a linkage to sex is :
• Sex is able to heal or destroy a person
• Sex creates human life, therefore it’s a recreational act in essence
• Sex can transform you permanently
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Mars in the signs (BDSM style)
| Aries | Dominant – Daddy-Mommy – Primal // Quick & Primitive |
| Taurus | Daddy – Mommy – Owner – Foodsex – Ropeplay – Naturalist // Sensual |
| Gemini | Dirty talk – Ploy – Gay – Swinger – Sexting // Playful & Verbal |
| Cancer | Submissive – Little – Tits – Oral // Nurturing & Pleasing |
| Leo | Performer – Mister-Mistress – Sextape – Sugar // Fiery |
| Virgo | Mentor – Slave – Pet – Anal // Serving |
| Libra | Romantic – Bottom – Submissive // Gentle |
| Scorpio | Switch – Powerplay – Dominant – SadoMasochist // Soulful |
| Sagittarius | Exhibitionist – Nudist – Voyeur // Adventurous |
| Capricorn | Master-Mistress – Powerplay – Sadist // Longlasting |
| Aquarius | Roleplay – Chatsex – Freak – Extravagant // Perverted |
| Pisces | Brat – Experimentalist – Submissive – Feetfetish // Romantic |
Lilith in the signs
| Aries | Very dominant by impulse. Fiercely competitive and independent. Can be ruthlessly aggressive. Wants it now or not at all. Must learn to control their extreme passions. |
| Taurus | Irresistable, incredibly sensual. They love sex and affection and will do almost everything for pleasure. Must learn to control their sensuality and possessiveness. |
| Gemini | They are never satisfied. Very curious, superficial and skeptical. A bit childish. They have extreme moodswings. They must learn to communicate about what they want. |
| Cancer | Very submissive and highly intuitive. They can become emotionally manipulative. Suffer with intense separation anxiety. They must learn to find independence. |
| Leo | Narcissism, attention seeking and mirrors turn them on (so they can watch themselves perform). Sex is performing to them. Must learn to tame the ego. |
| Virgo | Obsessive perfectionist. Sexual servant, enjoys degrading sex. Suffers from sexual shame and repression. Must learn to overcome feelings of guilt. |
| Libra | Incredibly seductive. Irresistable charm. Must learn to accept people as they are. |
| Scorpio | Incredibly seductive, hunting down lovers like prey. Hauntingly erotic sex. Obsessive and jealous. Must learn the value of trust. |
| Sagittarius | Wants everything in excess. Easily aroused. Must learn to have faith. |
| Capricorn | Completely ruthless. Become bitter and ice cold when hopes and desires are not met. Career is often connected to sex. Must learn to draw a line between emotions and ambitions. |
| Aquarius | Sexual rebel. Outspoken and obsessed with freedom. Must learn empathy. |
| Pisces | Fantasy over reality. Submissive, voyeurism. Sex is their escape. Deeply repressed emotions. Must learn to draw a line between reality and fantasy. |
More info on Lilith :
• Sexwork
• Lilith
Eros in the signs
| Aries | Intensely passionate, spontaneous attractions, need for excitement |
| Taurus | Monogamous, Primal affection, scent, tendency to possess |
| Gemini | Foreplay, dirty talk, mental stimulation |
| Cancer | Sex is nurturing, intuitive, caring and tender |
| Leo | Loves to be worshiped, affairs, passion, drama |
| Virgo | Sober, need for mutual intellect and approach to sex |
| Libra | Romantic, submissive, very focused onto the partner |
| Scorpio | Mystery, sexual merging, transformative experience, primal |
| Sagittarius | Sex is sport, optimistic approach, adventurous |
| Capricorn | Needs cooperation & hardworking partners are seen as sexy |
| Aquarius | Need for odd things, mental approach, pure and raw |
| Pisces | Sex is a spiritual act, desire to be needed, self-sacrifice |
It’s possible you feel attracted and sexually aroused to people who represent the sign in which your Eros is placed. For example : Eros in Aquarius, you could feel attracted to Aquarian types of people or a literal Aquarius Sun person.
Sexual Behavior
The Descendant in the natal chart gives more information on what an individual wants and needs within sex, how they act.
Fire DSC : Enjoys performing, involved in sexual activities. Takes a long time to climax
Earth DSC : Practical and sober
Air DSC : Secret liking for sex. Trying to conceal their sexual feelings.
Water DSC : Highly passionate, Not very sex oriented.
• Movable/ Dual Signs : Native likes to separate immediately after sex
• Fixed signs : Native likes to remain in deep embrace after sex
Natal Placements
Mars conjunct or trine Uranus : Kinky
Mars conjunct Venus : Sexy and magnetic
Mars conjunct Northnode : Nymphomaniac
Mars conjunct Pluto : Powerful, dominant and very passionate
Mars square Venus : Dominant, not a very feministic sexual style
Mars opposite Uranus : Unconventional desires, kinky
Venus conjunct Northnnode : Never really satisfied
Sun conjunct Pluto : Dominant
Sun conjunct Northnode : Strong masculine energy
Lilith conjunct Uranus : Unconventional desires
Lilith in 12 : Unusual, dark and vivid fantasies
Mars trine Saturn : gives the native a preference for having long sessions of lovemaking, slow and steady
Mars square Neptune : shows confusion around own sexual expression and could also indicate addiction
Mars trine Uranus : shows a person to be kinky and loves to try out new things
Mars square Uranus : causes restlessness, confused over what kind of kink he/she feels attracted to
Mars-Uranus aspect : is often linked to kinks, but it’s also the aspect of a sadist
Mars square Jupiter : can indicate a hasty and impatient person, overdoing and exaggeration
Mars sextile/trine Sun : comfortable with own masculinity, balanced sexual expression and ego
Hard aspects Mars-Sun : competitive, which for some can be fun in the bedroom
Mars sextile/trine Moon : instinctive responses, nurturing, needs emotion to be turned on
Mars in aspect to Northnode : high sexual drift, difficult to satisfy, sudden urges, sexual addiction
Mars conjunct Pluto : strong sexuality with very outspoken desires, needs soul connection for arousal
Mars-Pluto : loves to be in control during the sexual act, and can make one kinky as well
Mars square Saturn : sexual repression, brings sexual karma, restrictions in sex life, insecure
Mars square Moon : powerful emotions and urges, impatient and intense
Planets in the 7th house :
Sun : Aggressive in sex
Moon : Excitement and readiness for sex
Mercury : Premature ejaculation or nervous exhaustion
Venus : Love for sex, Very aroused
Mars : Vigorious and impatient
Jupiter : Engagement in ardent love
Saturn : Cool sex and mean outlook on sex union
Uranus : Independent and unconventional in sex
Neptune : Sex addicted
Pluto : Obsessive desires and very dominant
Northnode : Unsatisfied, sex for exchange
Southnode : Hypersensitive, premature discharge
Sexual degrees
| 8° Aries | sexual problems |
| 17° Aries | sexual emotionalism, problems |
| 18-19° Aries | sexual and romantic emotionalism |
| 22° Aries | strong sexual desires |
| 23° Aries | strong sexual need, vulgar |
| 24° Aries | excess sexual activity (repressed creative energy), vulgar |
| 28° Taurus | sexual perversions |
| 25° Gemini | high sex drive |
| 3° Cancer | sexual cravings, unusual, sexual rituals |
| 8° Cancer | illicit sexual relationships |
| 17-18° Cancer | illicit fantasies, homosexuality |
| 1° Leo | sexual overtone |
| 15° Leo | sexual problems |
| 23° Leo | sexual degree |
| 2° Virgo | sexual misfit |
| 11° Virgo | may seduce and rape |
| 13° Virgo | perverted thinking, unusual sex life, excess |
| 19° Virgo | pervert, dirtiness |
| 22° Virgo | excess sexual energy or drive |
| 8° Libra | sexual problems |
| 17° Libra | sexual problems |
| 23° Libra | homosexuality, great sexual vigor, inordinate lustfulness |
| 25° Libra | sexual degree |
| 7° Scorpio | adventurous sexual urges |
| 11° Scorpio | lustful, strong sexual urges |
| 14° Scorpio | fetishist |
| 15° Scorpio | underlying selfish sexual motives |
| 12° Sagittarius | excess sexual passion |
| 13° Sagittarius | troublesome sexual behavior |
| 8° Capricorn | sexual impotence probably |
| 4° Aquarius | selfish sexual urges, acts quickly upon sexual impulses, exhibitionism |
| 13° Aquarius | Sexual overtone |
| 16° Aquarius | pervert |
| 17-18° Aquarius | perverted sexual passion, sexual magic, |
| 23° Aquarius | sexual problems (rheumatism) |
| 26° Pisces | sexually promiscuous |
Examples
Mars in Aries is known to be quick, self-centered and loves doggytyle, but much depends on other indicators in the natal chart to see how it manifests, and how the native behaves during the sexual act. Sex is different with everyone, so a native can act differently with different sexual partners.
When Mars in Aries is receiving harmonious aspects, the sexual expression is more balanced and healthy. The person knowns what he/she wants and is secure in own sexuality. If Mars receives a lot of hard aspects, it creates difficulties in the sexuality of the native. So keep an eye on this one. One can overcome hard aspects, but it’s very challenging for both partners if one has a difficult Mars in the natal chart.