PlutonicDesire

Figuring out your pleasures, that’s what this page is devoted to.
I am a fetish positive person and would love to stimulate others into finding their specific pleasure,
because it gives depth to the overal experience of love making.
However it takes some time and open mindedness to discover yours…

Ask yourself :
Does the word and idea of Fetish appeal to me?
Does it appeal to me to try new and maybe weird things?
Do  i need more spice and depth in my sexlife?
Do i feel disconnected to my partner?
Am i comfortable to try new things?
If so, continue reading. Some people are happy with a Vanilla sexlife,
Which is just the ‘normal’ act without any additional toys, behavior, scenes,…


1) Drop the shame
There are tons of different fetishes from feetfetish to powerplay to rope to pissplay. Within society, sex and fetishes are still considered taboo and people often start laughing because 1. they don’t understand it and 2. they think it’s shameful to fetishize or sexualize certain situations, objects or bodyparts. By letting go of what was taught to us as the norm, you liberate your sexuality to find more joy in sharing fetishes with a loved one. Having a fetish does bring more depth to the experience, as if you level up to a deeper state of merging.
There is no wrong in finding something arousing and pleasurable, But at all times it should be with mutual consent.

2) Lets start with the basics
What part of your body do you feel the most sensation in and brings you the most pleasure, besides the genitals.

What is that fantasy that you secretly have while masturbating?

What feeling do you enjoy the most during the sexual act?
 Submission / Dominance
 Touch / Words
• Vision / Sensation
• Pain / Ease
• Service / Receiving

3) Experiment
Try some things by yourself, such as watching certain porn you’ve never thought of to watch
or which appeals to you but never clicked it out of shame, even when alone.
See if it arouses you.

Try out some new things with your partner, Have a conversation first in which you talk about what you’re both willing to try and what not.
 What do you want, what does your partner want?
 What is your turn off, what is your partner’s turn off?
 What do you both agree on to try?
 Any bad experiences?

4) Kink or Fetish
A kink is arousal from something that’s not considered the sexual norm.
Most often a ‘kinkster’ is someone who is still figuring out their fetishes.
A Fetish is an act or object which is necessary for arousal.

5) Balanced opposites
Most often a sexual relationship works best if one is submissive and the other is dominant.
There are many forms of this dynamic in which certain elements are a shared fetish between two people :

Dominant – Submissive
Primal – Prey
Ropemaster – Ropebunny
Top – Bottom
Dominant / Daddy – Brat
Sadist – Masochist
Findom – Finsub
Voyeur – Exhibitionist


List of fetishes (Basic explanation)

Anal : Rectal penetration
Ageplay : Sex with older or younger people
Armpit : Sexualization of armpits, smell, look
Amputee : Arousal from cut off limbs
Beathplay : Giving your ability the breath out of hands (powerplay)
Branding : Branding the skin with heated objects
Brat : Misbehaving, provocative person. mostly a submissive
Cutting : Playing with a knife or sharp objects to inflict (artistic) cuts
Cuckolding : Partner having sex with someone else in front of the other partner
CBT : Cock and ball torture (BDSM)
CEI : Cum eating instructions, mostly instructed by a dominant female
Choking : Choking of the neck during the sexual act
Collaring : Wearing a collar, being owned by a dominant
Dominance : Dominating the partner, being the guiding figure
Dickworship : Worship of the male genitals
Denial : Refraining from sexual experiences to increase arousal
Daddy : Caretaker with a fatherly energy, mostly a dominant or a guiding figure
Diapers : Sexualization of diapers, linked to pissplay (‘little’)
Deepthroat : Blowjob but taking the penis deeper than usual
Exhibitionism : The joy and arousal from sex in public places ; being caught
Fisting : Inserting a whole fist into the vagina or anus
Femdom : Female domination
Findom : Financial domination
Finsub : Arousal from losing financial control to a powerful figure
Feetfetish : Sexualization of the feet, touch, smell, look
Fart : Sexualization of the sound and smell of farts
Gangbang : Sex with multiple people at once
Impact play : Struck by the dominance of another person
JOI : Jerk off instructions, mostly instructed by a dominant female
Knifeplay : Playing with a knife, stroking against the body for sexual arousal
Leather : Sexualization of leather clothing or objects
Latex : Sexualization of the look, touch and sound of latex
Masochism : Arousal of pain, being dominated
Mommy : Caretaker with a motherly vibe
Master / Mistress : A powerful person who owns (multiple) slave(s)
Needleplay : Art with needles, masochism
Orgasm control : Controlling of the orgasm, partner controlling when you cum
Powerplay : Submissive person giving up all control
Pissplay : Playing with piss. Drinking, showering, cleaning, feel,..
Pussyplay : Pleasuring and worshiping the female genitals
Ropeplay : Binding the body with rope ; restriction of movement
Polyamory : Romantic feelings for multiple people
Primal : Raw sexual feelings, instinctive, animalistic, primitive approach
Prey : Submissive role to the Primal person, being hunted on
Sensation play : Sensual and soft foreplay and penetration
Submission : Sacrificial love, Being a servant of the pleasures of the partner
Skullfuck : Fucking the mouth with the penis or penis-like objects
Shibari : Artistic bondage, experience
Sadism : Sexualization of inflicting pain, domination
Sadomasochism : Sexualization of both pain and inflicting pain
Slave : A submissive person who gives up control for a dominant
Spit : Playing with spit
Switch : A person who enjoys being both dominant and submissive
Squirt : Sexualization of the female orgasm
Stockings : Sexualization of stockings
TPE : Total power exchange
Threesome : Sex with three people
Voyeurism : The joy of watching others have sex, arousal
Waxplay : Candles, wax dripping on the body ; Arousal from view & sensation

There is still a lot more, however this list shows the most common fetishes and is a good introduction to start with. Do your research, speak with like-minded people, visit fetish events in your area,… You’ll be surprised at how many people are into it and how much more fascinating fetishes exist.


Great websites

Fetlife – Facebook for fetish positive people
Bdsm test – Fill in a list to figure your fetishes
Manyvids – Openminded porn platform (LGBTQ friendly)
Kinkstore – Website for purchasing toys and BDSM equipment

*LGBTQ = Lesbian-Gay-Bisexual-Transgender-Queer