Sexual Style
There are several indications in the birthchart to see and understand individual sexual style.
| Mars : Drive & action. Attraction = Physical act Lilith : Fantasies & dark side. Kink = The go-getter Eros : Turn-ons = Preferences |
When exploring a person’s sexual nature in astrology, we often focus on Mars, but that’s only part of the picture. Mars represents the physical drive and how one initiates sex, but to understand deeper desires and turn-ons, we must also consider Eros. Eros reveals what stimulates passion on a more emotional, psychological, and symbolic level, it points to what feels erotic and necessary for the full experience of intimacy.
Lilith speaks to our raw, untamed sexual energy. It reflects where we confront shame, desire, and vulnerability, how we either suppress or own our primal instincts.
Pluto also plays a powerful role in how we experience intensity, transformation, and emotional exposure through sex. Its influence can deepen our need for fusion or expose hidden fears around surrender.
In my view, there are two main lenses through which we can understand sex astrologically: one that centers on physical expression and instinct (Mars), and another that reveals emotional, psychic, and symbolic complexity (Eros, Lilith, Pluto). Both are essential for a complete picture.
• Sex is able to heal or destroy a person
• Sex creates human life, therefore it’s a recreational act in essence
• Sex can transform you permanently and fundamentally
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Mars in the signs (BDSM style for fun)
| Aries | Dominant – Daddy-Mommy – Primal // Quick & Primitive |
| Taurus | Daddy – Mommy – Owner – Foodsex – Ropeplay – Naturalist // Sensual |
| Gemini | Dirty talk – Ploy – Gay – Swinger – Sexting // Playful & Verbal |
| Cancer | Submissive – Little – Tits – Oral // Nurturing & Pleasing |
| Leo | Performer – Mister-Mistress – Sextape – Sugar // Fiery |
| Virgo | Mentor – Slave – Pet – Anal // Serving |
| Libra | Romantic – Bottom – Submissive // Gentle |
| Scorpio | Switch – Powerplay – Dominant – SadoMasochist // Soulful |
| Sagittarius | Exhibitionist – Nudist – Voyeur // Adventurous |
| Capricorn | Master-Mistress – Powerplay – Sadist // Longlasting |
| Aquarius | Roleplay – Chatsex – Freak – Extravagant // Perverted |
| Pisces | Brat – Experimentalist – Submissive – Feetfetish // Romantic |
Lilith in the signs
| Aries | Raw, bold, dominant. Fantasies involve pursuit, power play, and physical conquest. Often characterized by directness, challenge, and unapologetic self-focus. Likes to be in charge or be the first in a particular shared experience. Can be ruthless, aggressive, wants it now or not at all. Often fiercely independent or competitive when unbalanced. Must learn how to channel desire without overpowering others, assertion without aggression, passion without burning bridges. |
| Taurus | Sensual, slow, indulgent. Desires revolve around touch, luxury, and prolonged pleasure. Craves earthy intimacy with a possessive edge or practices like edging/gooning. People that need touch or stimuli of the senses, a love for affection. Some may have a preference for using objects as tools for sexual stimuli. Must learn not to confuse possession with love. To allow movement and change without fearing loss of safety or control. |
| Gemini | Erotic curiosity, mental stimulation, and wordplay. Gets turned on through conversation, teasing, and taboo thoughts. Duality is part of the kink. Sometimes hard to satisfy, can be superficial or skeptical when unbalanced. Must learn to deepen past the surface. Fantasy and variety are rich, but commitment and presence bring grounding. |
| Cancer | Craves emotional intensity with an undertone of neediness, nurturing, or dependency. Fantasies may blur care with control or eroticize vulnerability. Can be submissive and highly intuitive. But they can become emotionally dependent or manipulative, or struggle with fears of abandonment and separation anxiety when unbalanced. Must learn to separate emotional need from manipulation. Real safety comes from inner anchoring, not emotional entanglement. |
| Leo | Wants to be worshipped or to perform, often passionate and fiery lovers. Kink lies in attention, dominance, and dramatics. Pleasure is theatrical, expressive, and ego-charged. May love mirrors or recording as a way to watch themselves perform. Must learn to share the spotlight. Intimacy deepens when it’s not a performance but a true act of presence and trust. |
| Virgo | Eroticizes control, precision, and service. Fantasies may involve domination through restraint, ritual, or denial. The kink is in the detail, may enjoy degrading sex, but can also suffer from sexual shame, guilt, insecurity, or perfectionism when unbalanced. Some are overly sensitive for sensory overload. Must learn that imperfection isn’t failure. Surrendering control can lead to deeper healing and pleasure. |
| Libra | Fantasies of seduction, aesthetics, and mirrored desire. Often loves physical beauty and charm. May hide darker cravings behind beauty or politeness. Pleasure thrives in imbalance or contrast. Must learn to stop people-pleasing at the cost of truth. Real connection comes from exposing the raw, not just the refined. |
| Scorpio | Deep, intense, taboo, tantra, a lover of erotic soul-merging sex. Power, secrecy, and surrender are central themes. Some like to hunt down lovers like prey. Craves full psychic merging or control, often both. But may struggle to fully open up due to a fear of exposure, vulnerability, sexual repression or shame. Must learn that obsession isn’t love. Letting go doesn’t mean losing power, it means transforming it. Learn the value of trust. |
| Sagittarius | Erotic adventurer, experimentalist, often likes things in excess. Fantasies are wild, uncontained, and exploratory. Craves freedom, danger, and new erotic philosophies. Sometimes, sex is connected to ones life philosophy. Can be prone to overindulgence or struggle with excitement over discernment. Must learn that intimacy doesn’t threaten freedom. Real expansion includes depth. |
| Capricorn | Authority, status, and control become erotic. Fantasies may include discipline, age differences, or power imbalance. Kink is structured and strategic. “it must be earned”. Can be ruthless, bitter, or col when hopes and desires are not met. Career may be connected to sex, body-based healing or practices. Must learn to release fear of vulnerability. True strength comes from emotional honesty, not just control. |
| Aquarius | Detached but provocative, sometimes very outspoken. Attracted to the unconventional, the rebellious, or the shocking. Fantasies include experimentation, role-play, or being “watched.” Must learn to balance detachment with emotional presence. Connection isn’t a trap when you’re seen as you are. |
| Pisces | Mystical, dissolving boundaries. Fantasies are dreamlike, spiritual, or sacrificial. Kink may involve fantasy realms, altered states, or surrender of identity. Submissive, voyeurism, webcams or recording may be part of the kink, as well as feet. Must learn to stay grounded in truth. Fantasy without discernment can lead to loss of self, real intimacy needs clarity. |
More info on Lilith :
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• Lilith
Eros in the signs
| Aries | Turned on by boldness, initiation, and raw energy. Desires chase, challenge, and the thrill of the moment. Intensely passionate, spontaneous attractions, need for excitement. |
| Taurus | Eroticism through touch, scent, and comfort. Turned on by slow build-up, sensuality, and physical indulgence. Monogamous, primal affection and attraction. |
| Gemini | Mental stimulation is the key. Turned on by wordplay, banter, duality, and erotic conversation. Foreplay, dirty talk. |
| Cancer | Wants emotional safety and deep bonding. Turned on by nurturing, tenderness, intuitive and attuned partners, and emotional vulnerability. |
| Leo | Desires drama, adoration, and performance. Turned on by praise, playfulness, and being the center of attention. Loves worshiped, affairs, passion. |
| Virgo | Craves precision, devotion, and erotic service. Turned on by control, small gestures, and the tension between restraint and release. Sober, need for intellect and conscious partners. |
| Libra | Erotic through harmony, aesthetics, and mutual seduction. Turned on by beauty, balance, and refined touch. Romantic, submissive, often deeply focused on the other. |
| Scorpio | Desire is intense, secretive, and all-consuming. Turned on by power dynamics, depth, and emotional risk. Mystery, sexual merging, transformative experiences, primal. |
| Sagittarius | Eroticism through freedom, adventure, and philosophy. Turned on by new experiences, openness, and wild exploration. Sex as sport, willing. |
| Capricorn | Craves structure, power, and delayed gratification. Turned on by control, dominance, and the slow burn of earned intimacy. Hardworking partners are often seen as sexy. |
| Aquarius | Erotic through the unconventional and unexpected. Turned on by rebellion, originality, and emotional detachment with a twist of shock. Mental, pure, pervert, and raw. |
| Pisces | Desire is dreamy, dissolving, and boundaryless. Turned on by fantasy, merging, and spiritual or emotional surrender. Sex as spiritual act, desire to be needed, self-sacrifice. |
You may feel sexually drawn to people who embody the qualities of the sign your Eros is in. For example, if your Eros is in Aquarius, you might be attracted to people with Aquarian traits, unconventional, intellectual, or emotionally detached, or even to someone with their Sun in Aquarius.
Sexual Behavior
The Descendant reveals what we are drawn to in others, especially in intimate or long-term partnerships. It describes the qualities we seek, often unconsciously, and how we tend to relate in one-on-one dynamics. While it’s not the primary indicator of sexual behavior, it can offer subtle insight into attraction patterns, relational desire, and the projected erotic style.
Fire DSC: Drawn to bold, expressive, and passionate partners. Enjoys intensity, spontaneity, and may crave excitement in sexual and relational connection. Can be performative or dynamic in bed. Climax may be delayed due to high arousal threshold or focus on experience over outcome.
Earth DSC: Attracted to stable, grounded, and sensual partners. Enjoys physical closeness, consistency, and the rituals of touch, cuddling, routine, and loyalty are erotic anchors. Sexuality is often slow-building but deeply physical.
Air DSC: Stimulated by intellectual connection, communication, and curiosity. May seem emotionally detached or playful, and can conceal sexual feelings behind lightness or wit. Fantasies often include mental stimulation and novelty.
Water DSC: Craves emotional depth, psychic merging, and safe intensity. Highly passionate but not always overtly sexual. Erotic connection often blends with emotional healing, fantasy, or spiritual closeness.
Natal Placements
Mars conjunct or trine Uranus: Kinky, turned on by spontaneity, Strong sexual electricity
Mars conjunct Venus: High sexual magnetism, strong attraction drive, flirtatious and charismatic
Mars conjunct Northnode: Nymphomaniac or sexual repression, trauma, compulsive desire
Mars conjunct Pluto: Deep, primal sexuality, extremely passionate, dominant, intense, and transformative
Mars square Venus: Strong sex drive, could struggle with relational balance, explosive affairs
Mars opposite Uranus: Restless, thrill-seeking sexuality. Craves novelty, nontraditional experiences, kinky
Venus conjunct Northnnode: Drawn to karmic relationships, can feel deeply unsatisfied
Sun conjunct Pluto: Intense presence, magnetism, and inner dominance
Sun conjunct Northnode: Masculine energy may be emphasized, need for raw expression
Lilith conjunct Uranus: Unconventional and rebellious desires, can be impulsive
Lilith in 12: Secret, repressed, or mystical sexuality. Vivid fantasies, often involving taboo
Mars trine Saturn : gives the native a preference for having long sessions of lovemaking, slow and steady
Mars square Neptune : shows confusion around own sexual expression and could also indicate addiction
Mars trine Uranus : shows a person to be kinky and loves to try out new things
Mars square Uranus : causes restlessness, confused over what kind of kink he/she feels attracted to
Mars-Uranus aspect : is often linked to kinks, but it’s also the aspect of a sadist
Mars square Jupiter : can indicate a hasty and impatient person, overdoing and exaggeration
Mars sextile/trine Sun : comfortable with own masculinity, balanced sexual expression and ego
Hard aspects Mars-Sun : competitive, which for some can be fun in the bedroom
Mars sextile/trine Moon : instinctive responses, nurturing, needs emotion to be turned on
Mars in aspect to Northnode : high sexual drift, difficult to satisfy, sudden urges, sexual addiction
Mars conjunct Pluto : strong sexuality with very outspoken desires, needs soul connection for arousal
Mars-Pluto : loves to be in control during the sexual act, and can make one kinky as well
Mars square Saturn : sexual repression, brings sexual karma, restrictions in sex life, insecure
Mars square Moon : powerful emotions and urges, impatient and intense
Planets in the 7th house :
Sun : Aggressive in sex
Moon : Excitement and readiness for sex
Mercury : Premature ejaculation or nervous exhaustion
Venus : Love for sex, Very aroused
Mars : Vigorious and impatient
Jupiter : Engagement in ardent love
Saturn : Cool sex and mean outlook on sex union
Uranus : Independent and unconventional in sex
Neptune : Sex addicted
Pluto : Obsessive desires and very dominant
Northnode : Unsatisfied, sex for exchange
Southnode : Hypersensitive, premature discharge
Sexual degrees
| 8° Aries | sexual problems |
| 17° Aries | sexual emotionalism, problems |
| 18-19° Aries | sexual and romantic emotionalism |
| 22° Aries | strong sexual desires |
| 23° Aries | strong sexual need, vulgar |
| 24° Aries | excess sexual activity (repressed creative energy), vulgar |
| 28° Taurus | sexual perversions |
| 25° Gemini | high sex drive |
| 3° Cancer | sexual cravings, unusual, sexual rituals |
| 8° Cancer | illicit sexual relationships |
| 17-18° Cancer | illicit fantasies, homosexuality |
| 1° Leo | sexual overtone |
| 15° Leo | sexual problems |
| 23° Leo | sexual degree |
| 2° Virgo | sexual misfit |
| 11° Virgo | may seduce and rape |
| 13° Virgo | perverted thinking, unusual sex life, excess |
| 19° Virgo | pervert, dirtiness |
| 22° Virgo | excess sexual energy or drive |
| 8° Libra | sexual problems |
| 17° Libra | sexual problems |
| 23° Libra | homosexuality, great sexual vigor, inordinate lustfulness |
| 25° Libra | sexual degree |
| 7° Scorpio | adventurous sexual urges |
| 11° Scorpio | lustful, strong sexual urges |
| 14° Scorpio | fetishist |
| 15° Scorpio | underlying selfish sexual motives |
| 12° Sagittarius | excess sexual passion |
| 13° Sagittarius | troublesome sexual behavior |
| 8° Capricorn | sexual impotence probably |
| 4° Aquarius | selfish sexual urges, acts quickly upon sexual impulses, exhibitionism |
| 13° Aquarius | Sexual overtone |
| 16° Aquarius | pervert |
| 17-18° Aquarius | perverted sexual passion, sexual magic, |
| 23° Aquarius | sexual problems (rheumatism) |
| 26° Pisces | sexually promiscuous |
Examples
Mars in Aries is known for its direct, bold, and fast-moving sexual energy. These individuals often take the lead and enjoy physical, spontaneous intimacy, positions like doggystyle may appeal due to their action-oriented nature. However, sexual expression always depends on the entire natal chart. A person may behave very differently with different partners depending on emotional connection, comfort, and synastry.
When Mars in Aries receives harmonious aspects, the native tends to express desire confidently and assertively, without aggression. They usually know what they want and pursue it with clarity and self-assurance.
When Mars is heavily afflicted,, the sexual energy can become impulsive, reactive, or self-focused. This may show up as impatience, dominance struggles, or challenges in balancing personal desire with a partner’s needs. These patterns can be worked through, but may require conscious effort and self-awareness, especially in close relationships. Always assess the full chart to understand the deeper story behind Mars.